A Little Rant.

Here's the thing about being friendzoned a bit too many times; you start losing faith in yourself. Even when you say that the guy was a douchebag (maybe he was), you start doubting yourself after a point. You start thinking that maybe you aren't good enough, maybe there's something wrong with you. It is worse with people with low self-esteem, they go down in an endless spiral of self loathing. It isn't that they hate themselves most of the time, they just have this strong belief that they aren't good enough and will never will be. They stop caring about how they look, because who cares, right? There might be people who do care, but it doesnt seem real. Compliments seem empty, just stated to be nice. The fact that they aren't happy with themselves just adds on to their 'I don't care' facade when really, they do care, they just feel that they might not be good enough even when they try.

When someone close points their insecurities out, they don't get mad at that person. They'd know that person means well. They just get mad at themselves and keep thinking about it for a very long time.

You see, it isn't about the other person. It's their inner demons fighting with each other. No matter how much you love them, they won't see it, because they need to love themselves first. Don't get annoyed at such people; it isn't that they don't try. It is just that they're stuck in a hole of self depreciation and they do know how to climb out; they just don't know that they do.